PRESS STATEMENT: BY HON. JUSTICE ANTHONY EZONFADE OKORODAS
Ladies and gentlemen of the Press, I thank you for attending this Press Conference. I have taken the decision to address the Press in respect of certain traumatic developments that have arisen between me and my ex-wife, Barrister Celia Juliet Ototo of the Ototo Family of Ovom in Yenagoa Local Government Area of Bayelsa State. It is now nearly 11 years since our separation and divorce. This Press Statement is important in order to prevent damaging speculations, half- truths and outright lies from persons who may want to cash in on the tragedy that has befallen my home.
Sometime during the coronavirus lockdowns early last year, I received information from an anonymous source that indicated that the last of the three children from my previous marriage was in fact not my biological child. Due to the COVID-19 restrictions at the time, I had to wait until August 2020 to carry out a DNA test. The DNA test result which came out in September 2020 confirmed that I was not the biological father of the child.
Consequently, I convened a joint meeting between my extended family on the one side, and Celia’s paternal and maternal families (i.e., the Ototo Family of Ovom Town and the Agbagidi Family of Yenagoa Town) on the other side, where I confronted her with the paternity fraud allegation. Although she initially strongly insisted that I was the biological father, she has since confessed to having the child with another man during the course of our marriage.
This repulsive act of my ex-wife prompted me to conduct DNA tests in respect of the two other children. A few days ago, the results came out. Sadly, none of them is my biological child.
This abomination has caused excruciating mental trauma to me, my present wife, Barrister (Mrs) Ebi Okorodas and all of the innocent children involved. This is particularly so for Ebi, who has had to agree to having DNA tests on the four children of our own marriage. Thankfully, the test results confirm each of them to be my biological child.
It is important to state that Celia walked away from the marriage when her youngest child (who is now 17 years of age) was just 6 years old. Since then, all of her children have lived with my wife, Ebi and I, and we have been wholly responsible for their wellbeing and education. Friends who are close to my family would readily attest to the fact that unless specifically informed, no one could tell that the children were not the biological children of my present wife.
Ebi and I would continue to support the children in any way that we can. Indeed, even after the release of the first DNA test result which proved that I was not the biological father of the last child, we have continued to pay for his education in a private boarding school. The two other children are University undergraduates. The first, a female, will be a graduate later this year, and the second will soon enter his 4th year of study. We pray for them to overcome the trauma and become responsible citizens of our country.
For Celia and her boyfriend or boyfriends, we leave them to their conscience. Thank you very much.
The Hon. Justice Anthony Ezonfade Okorodas, PhD. Judge High Court of Delta State January 28, 2021.
Paternity tests are big business because women aren’t trusted
96% of women are liars, honest “The Scotsman, EDWARD BLACK,”
NINETEEN out of 20 women admit lying to their partners or husbands, a survey on attitudes to truth and relationships has found.
Eighty-three per cent owned up to telling “big, life-changing lies”, with 13 per cent saying they did so frequently.
Half said that if they became pregnant by another man but wanted to stay with their partner, they would lie about the baby’s real father.
Forty-two per cent would lie about contraception in order to get pregnant, no matter the wishes of their partner.
And an alarming 31 per cent said they would not tell a future partner if they had a sexual disease: this rises to 65 per cent among single women.
In the poll of 5,000 women for That’s Life! magazine, 45 per cent said they told “little white lies” most days. The favourite untruth was “of course you don’t look fat”, with “these shoes were only 10” in second place.
Jo Checkley, the editor of That’s Life! , said that while many women now lied to avoid hurting their partner’s feelings, covering up the truth about a baby could have far Read More ..maging consequences.
She said: “Modern women just can’t stop lying, but they do it to stop hurting other people’s feelings. It could be argued that these little white lies simply make the world go round a little Read More ..oothly. But to tell a man a baby is his when it’s not, or to deliberately get pregnant when your partner doesn’t want a baby, is playing Russian roulette with other people’s lives.”
If you got caught cheating, your marriage does not necessarily have to end. Even though admitting an affair to your spouse will cause much heartache and anger, your marriage can survive. But this will only happen if you truly regret your decision to cheat. If you decide to confess an affair, make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, not just to get rid of your own guilt.
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Married woman begs ex-Boyfriend to impregnate her, see leaked Facebook chat
To this end, many medical practitioners took to the social media space to admonish men to carryout DNA test. The case of many men fathering other men’s children is on the rise, and will continously be because of the fact that many young ladies marry who is ready, and not who they love.
These screenshots below will further confirm that this menace is eating deep and will continue if not curbed. What is your take on this? Follow, like, and share for more content. Thank you.
I dont know where to start. I have been with my man for two years now and we have a son who is one-year-old. We come across as a perfect family but it’s all a lie. I cheated on my man and fell pregnant. In order not to jeopardise my relationship, I decided to lie about the paternity of the child. This worked out perfectly well because the real father of my child was denying paternity anyway. He recently called me to say that he would like a relationship with his son but I’m afraid the damage is already done. Do I save my relationship and ignore this man or do I tell the truth and suffer the consequences? Kelly
THE truth is, there’s an untold number of men that are unknowingly raising children who aren’t their own biologically. A woman falls pregnant and is either unsure of who the father is, or as is often the case, she knows who the father is but prefers a different man to father her child. This is called paternity fraud.
The thing is, whether you’re married and trying to conceal an affair, or you consider your current boyfriend as more reliable to father your child, consciously deciding to lie about your child’s paternity can have a devastating impact on all involved after some time. Years may pass, but when the truth comes out, as it often does, the consequences are life-changing.
Everyone involved will suffer the emotionally devastating impact, which may well be accompanied by equally devastating legal and financial consequences. More directly, the child will suffer, and so will both men. And believe it or not, both the false father and biological father as well as the child could have legal claims against you at a later stage.
Your child will suffer the untold pain of re-orienting his relationship with a man he was raised to believe is his father once the truth comes out. Children, you always have to keep in mind, build their entire lives around and are totally reliant on the information given to them by their parents as they grow. Their entire security, identity, self-confidence and self-worth stands on the shoulders of those that play the parental role in their lives on a day-to-day basis. And they trust everything they are given by those playing mom and dad in their lives.
Pulling the carpet about who the real father is, is tantamount to erasing that trust, identity and all the security they’ve built around a life they thought they had – but later found out was all a farce. In your case, your son is still a year old. Perhaps the devastation on him won’t be as much, if you decide to come out now with the truth.
The false father
Your current boyfriend deserves to know the truth. Sure, you have no control over how he will deal with the whole soapie, but it’s his right to know. He’ll be disappointed, angry and may even never want to have anything to do with you, but he has to know the truth and it must preferably be initiated by you. You’ll have to press through the guilt, shame and embarrassment, but you’ll be doing the right thing. You cannot cage someone in the name of love, especially through lies, deceit and a potential criminal act. Lay it all out for him, give him the right to respond anyway he chooses, and deal with the aftermath.
The biological father
It’s disappointing that the biological father first denied the paternity of the child, and you have every right to hold him accountable for that action in order for him to square up with you. However, it’s great that he wants to step up, and take responsibility for his child. He not only has a legal duty to do so, it’s also his right to have a relationship with his biological child irrespective of your relationship status. He may have acted like a jerk initially by running away from his responsibility, but you owe it to your child and the false father to reveal the truth.
If you don’t do so now, not only is the child growing up, but your current man is forming a stronger bond with the child as his own every day. In addition, you may have the whole situation blown up on your face by the biological father who may be impatient with the whole situation and act insensitively and in a manner that’s out of your control. After all, unlike you and the false father, he really doesn’t have much to lose in all this.